How to be a Confident Goal Setter


Facing Our Fears

As coaches and entrepreneurs we've set some very scurry goals for ourselves! Comfort zones are a thing of a past to say the least!  There were and are a LOT of feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, and inadequacy.  Times we want to shut it down or run and hide because our goals feel so big & scary. But continuing forward despite not knowing what we were doing majority of the time, helped us build confidence in ourselves & what we had to offer!  How amazing do you feel when you accomplish a goal you set out to do? The best feeling e'er!

Taking ACTION builds confidence.

When you're in the trenches of navigating your goals, they can seem impossible to reach.  But after taking lots of imperfect ACTION, we KNOW we'll reach our goals because when some of the things we try don’t work, we just keep trying new things until we get there.  We're not afraid of failure anymore.  It is VERY much a part of the process!  We know to succeed we need to do a lot of failing along the way. Here is a step-by-step process that has completely changed the way we set and tackle goals, and it’s so simple!


Be specific.

Make sure your goal is SPECIFIC with regards to things like quantities, frequencies, and timelines.  Then write it down and post it someplace where you will see it every day. Writing it down takes it from an imaginary dream state into reality. It’s super powerful. You’ve probably been taught to write down your goals before and I’m giving it an amen. Do it. Right now.

How do your goals make you feel?

Consider how the goal makes you feel.  If you have little to no emotion about it, you should choose a bigger goal. If you feel super excited about it you’re ready to move to step 3. If you feel nervous, scared or any other negative emotion, don't're a normal human being.  It happens to all of us! Write down all your feelings about it!  Write down all those thoughts on a piece of paper. Anything that comes to mind!  Seriously…just write it all down!

What am I thinking? I’ll never be able to do it. I don’t even know where to begin. Who am I to think I can do it?  I’ll always be the same. I am incapable of change. What if people see me trying and think I’m a total loser? I've never lost the weight before, what makes me think I can do it again?  I'm hopeless.  Why do I even bother?  What if I embarrass myself because I don’t do it the right way?  Or worse, what if I fail completely? Also I’m not athletic. How will I find the time? But this is always something I’ve wanted to do and I know I WANT to do it. I should just do it. If I don’t do it now I might never do it. But…seriously I just don’t know how. I wonder who could help me?  Where's the blueprint for this!?

(This is a tool we love from Jody Moore known as a "Thought Download".  Be sure to check out her podcast "Better Than Happy"'s one of our favorites!)

What thoughts empower you?

Get those thoughts out on paper and you’ll find out very quickly why you’re feeling anxious about your goal.  NOW...look over what you wrote.  Which thoughts are making you want to hide from taking action?  Now, think of the opposite kind of thoughts.  EMPOWERING thoughts. Ones that empower you!  You are capable and strong, and you CAN do this.  What thoughts help you feel that way? This idea of choosing the right thought sounds so simple but can be very challenging because not just any great quote from Pinterest will do! It has to be a thought that you believe.  But it’s also totally do-able and will change everything when you find the right one.  DON'T GIVE UP ON FINDING THE RIGHT THOUGHT.

What roadblocks might you face?

Now it's time to think about what roadblocks might stand in your way!

For example:

Busy family schedule

We eat out a lot as a family.

I don’t know a lot about nutrition.

I don’t have time to work out.

I’m too tired to workout.

The list goes on and on...

What's the game plan?

Once you have a list of roadblocks, write a strategy for each one.
This strategy is now your ACTION PLAN. For example:

Roadblock: I don’t have time to work out.

Strategy:  Carve out time 3 times a week to spend 20 minutes exercising.  Set an alarm in your phone or a reminder in your phone to keep you accountable.  Treat that time like you would your work or an appointment. It’s on the schedule, and I can’t miss my appointment.

Obstacle: We eat out a lot as a family.

Strategy: Look up nutrition info beforehand and pre-log those meals.  Don't forget about our Restaurant Quicklist!  Or follow @butteryourmacros_restaurants for easy access of over 75 restaurants with our macro-friendly favorites!

Time to take action!

Get busy taking imperfect ACTION toward your goal.

This is the part where you do it. Even if it's imperfect action, do it anyways!  Don't let perfectionism keep you from moving forward.  There is never going to be the "perfect" time.  If you find yourself avoiding taking action or not following through on your strategies, go back to downloading your thoughts. This is the most important part of the process!  It is directly connected to WHY you're not taking action!

Also keep in mind that some of your strategies will not work!  Zilch. Zippo. Nada. If you’re expecting to fail sometimes then it won’t throw you off track, and you can simply move forward, looking for new strategies to reach your goal.  Don't forget friends, that failure means you're getting that much closer to success.