Comfortable with Uncomfortable
evaluating & Managing the stressors in our lives
When we don’t have perspective on what’s most important when it comes to our needs and the stress we face—we might struggle with knowing what needs need to be met in order to achieve what we want in life. Without being intentional we might just run off the default thought that all things should be done and that what we get done is never enough.
This month we want you to focus on examining your own hierarchy of needs and understand the difference between the discomfort that helps us and the discomfort that hurts us.
Our purpose is for you to first identify all the stressors in your life, second prioritize them in order of what needs your attention most to least, and lastly choose which one needs to be your top priority right now.
discomfort is the currency to your dreams
In order to grow into the next version of yourself, you’re going to be uncomfortable. And stress might play a part. The key is going to be figuring out what discomfort and stress serves you and what doesn’t.
People often think of stress as a dangerous and deadly thing.
The truth though is that stress is simply a normal physiological response to events that make you feel threatened in some way.
When you sense danger—physical, mental or emotional—your defenses kick into high gear in a fast, automatic process known as the “fight or flight” response, aka the stress response!
The stress response is your body’s way of protecting you.
When working the way it should, the stress response helps you stay focused, energetic and alert. In extreme situations, stress can save your life or that of others, i.e. giving you the extra strength to lift a car off your child, or spurring you to slam the brakes to avoid an accident.
The stress response also helps you rise to meet challenges. Stress keeps you sharp during a presentation at work, increases your concentration when you need it most, or drives you to study for an exam when you’d rather be home with your family or out with friends.
But beyond a certain point, stress stops helping and starts damaging your health, your mood, your productivity, your relationships, and your quality of life.
But how do I know the difference?
Good discomfort results in growth, strength, propels you forward and teaches you. Good discomfort creates a positive result.
“I’m venturing out of the cave to try something new.”
“I’m doing something that’s going to reap the benefits later.”
“A little discomfort goes a long way!”
“If I’m feeling a little uncomfortable I’m right on track!”
Bad discomfort hold you back, tightens you, keeps you the same, and causes resistance. It looks like beating yourself up unnecessarily and all the time.
“I’m not good at this.”
“I won’t be able to lose the weight.”
“This is too hard, I’m not cut out for this.”
“Everyone else seems to be getting it, why not me?”
It’s important to remember that the two sides of the coin are not comfort vs. discomfort. The two sides of the coin are discomfort that serves you and discomfort that is unnecessary and self-inflicted.
You have to accept that this life is going to be 50/50. You will always be experiencing discomfort of some kind. The key is going to be determining what your basic needs are, what your mental/spiritual/physical needs are, and then what feels out of control that could use your attention!
Discomfort is the price you pay for change—BUT—not every single aspect of your life needs to be soul crushing discomfort.
Heidi spoke to a client last week who is a busy working mom with the following issues going on:
Both she and her husband have both had a health crisis within the last year.
As a result they have heavy debt—and decided to radically downgrade their living conditions in order to pay off the debt quicker (they chose to do this, they weren’t forced)!
Her business is in it’s annual post-holiday down turn.
And this is just the list she told me about in our short conversation—there’s no doubt she has additional stressors in her life!! And together we decided—why don’t we REMOVE the stress of being in a calorie deficit also. Not every single aspect of your life needs to be a struggle all at the same time. There are times and seasons to devote attention to solving problems in different areas of our lives!
This month we want you to use the two worksheets below in conjunction with each other to identify and tackle your stressors!
Prioritizing your needs and stressors can help you more successfully and intentionally create goals for yourself that are realistic and challenging yet won’t completely wreck you or your mindset.